A: Well, let’s see. Do you ever find yourself in a position where you have to do something extremely distasteful to you? How would you want someone you love to act towards you? I think I can safely assume that you, like most people, would like and expect empathy, validation of your feelings, acknowledgement of the difficulty you face, and a pat on the back for doing something so hard for you.
Consider, also, why you are so insistent that your son take his medicine. Is it another chore that he has to do? Is it your homework from the doctor? No! It’s because you love him.You are on the same team. It’s not a fight; it’s a challenge you have to overcome by working together.
So how about this: before you give him the medicine next time, sit down on the couch with him. Put your arm around him and tell him that you love him so much. He is so precious to you and you don’t want him to go through any pain. You know how hard it is to take the medicine and how much he hates it.
You can take turns listing all the things he’d rather do, like taking out the garbage, cleaning his room and so on. Or you can describe how you wish there was a vaccine for every illness man is susceptible to so he wouldn’t ever have to take medicine… Have fun, the sillier ideas you come up with, the better!
Then get back to being serious. Tell him again how much you love him and that you wouldn’t want him to wind up in the hospital because he didn’t take his medicine. You can ask him if it would make it easier for him to get a small treat, some extra time with you, perhaps a rare privilege, or some such. This is not a bribe nor a reward but just an aid, something to ease the difficulty.
Finally, praise him and thank him for taking it even though it’s so hard for him. May you and your family enjoy the best of health always.